The Art of Courting a Woman

To preface this post, I'd like to say I speak and write from a black male angel because of course I am black, and all of my relationships have been with black women. By no means am I saying my thoughts and personal philosophies don't or won't apply to relationships of other ethnic backgrounds.

Ok, now that we've got that out the way...

As I look out into the world around me on a daily basis I witness a lot of things, I also hear a lot of things. It appears to me, at some point in time (and for the most part), the black male has neglected the idea, notion, and benefits that come from courting a woman. Somewhere, somehow, that finesse in handling the delicate, emotional genetic make-up of the female species has been lost. I have a lot of sisters and I often hear a lot of cardinal rules that men break with women. For instance, what's up with these characters asking a woman they just met yesterday if she will come to his house as a first date or vice verse?? Where is the finesse in that? What ever happened to the art of dealing with a woman that most of our grandfathers and great grandfathers had which strengthened the bond between himself and our grandmothers and great grandmothers? You know...the art that allowed them to literally stay together until death did or does them part?

Ladies, courting is all about you. When was the last time a man attempted to bond with you during a picnic in the park? And I don't mean going to get some chicken and a side of mashed potatoes from KFC. I mean literally putting some thought into it; from selecting the park, to the food selection in the basket the two of you share, and a sexy bottle of wine that tantalizes your taste buds for more with every sip you swallow.

The art of courting a woman doesn't stop in the early stages (you know...the getting to know you part). A man courting you should extend into the stages when the bond you've established with one another carries your beings to that "pillowy" warmth, and comfort you experience on the infamous 'Cloud 9'. Back in my growth and development stages of becoming the man I present to you today, I remember calling my then college love at the spur of moment, and telling her to pack some clothes for the weekend because we're going to Florida to enjoy one another and walk on the beach. While there, the emotion I felt was great, but the emotion she felt I could tell was 10 times greater. Mission accomplished, my baby knew she was special to me.

I am looking forward to the day when all men will genuinely (notice I said genuinely) want to connect with a woman emotionally, and rid themselves of the thought that being emotionally attached to a woman makes him weak. Short, tall, skinny, or fat...a man will protect what he loves, and I've learned that women love being handled with finesse.

A WOMAN SHOULD BE COURTED. Remember that.

Later on,
I_Treasure_U