Find A Champion

Greetings angels,

I sincerely hope this post finds each of you well and in great spirits. I was in church the other night and I heard something in the message that said to me...the next woman you involve yourself with seriously needs to be a champion. I started thinking about it and asked myself, "well why does she need to be a champion?" Nobody except my sisters knows that I'm the type of guy that can find the "rose bud" in just about any woman I am attracted to regardless of her background (I guess that's just one of my gifts...I'm a motivator, I thrive off of empowering others; especially the female gender), but I asked myself "why a champion?" The answer to my question was, "because I'm a champion." As I thought more about it, I came to the realization of why I need a champion.

• Reason #1 - Because I want champion offspring. Ladies, this is something you must definitely keep on the forefront of your minds. Hey some of you may despise what I am about to say, but I want to apologize in advance if I rub you the wrong way (please forgive me), but two sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having parents create sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having children, and if you're a champion and he isn't, ladies chances are you are going to be walking around the entire 9 months of your pregnancy with that 50/50 chance that your baby is going to be sorry, have low self-esteem, and no plan or vision (saying that prayer..."Lord Jesus please don't let my child be like his or her daddy). Personally, I can't have a woman that doesn't have a champion spirit or mindset pass on the energy that winning is not everything to my children while I'm teaching them how to win. That's an easy way for a woman to get early dismissal from me.
  
• Reason #2 - Champions can and do go through periods of loss and who is better to have than another champion that knows how to take his curled index finger, place it under your chin, raise your head until your eyes meet, place his forehead against yours, and say to you, "STAND STRAIGHT CHAMP! HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH AND FIGHT YOUR WAY BACK TO THE TOP!" A sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having mofo CAN'T and WON'T do this for you.
  
• Reason #3 - Champions understand the importance of teamwork. Look here, it takes teamwork to build a solid family footing and impart positive values that will equate to generational success. I'm just saying shawty...I want my children's children to continue the legacy of my good name.
  
• Reason #4 - Champions don't get in your way. There's a level of "understood respect". They understand what the other champion is dealing with and as a result, they don't complain and nag (oh yes...I'm sure many of you have encountered a complaining and nagging man. If his tail had a plan and vision he wouldn't have time to complain or nag)...(you can clap now).
  
• Reason #5 - CHAMPIONS DON'T BRING YOU DOWN. I don't need to say anything more about this one. (You can clap again)
  

Ladies, if you have a sorry, low self-esteem, no plan and vision having man. You might want to reconsider, and make sure you don't put yourself in that predicament again...I'm just saying.

B-e-Z

From my heart to yours,
I_Treasure_U

Play Your Position

Greetings my beauty queens,

I pray that each of you are doing well and are holding your heads high. I want to get straight to the point with this post. I'm sure its not just me that is witnessing the "weakness" of the 21st century man. Please don't misconstrue what I am saying to mean all men today possess this "weakness" because there are indeed men that can be called "diamonds in a rough" (they just so happen to be few and far between), but in my encounters with many women, a constant theme has been guys that lack motivation, have no goals, and have no plans for their lives. I find something absolutely wrong with that, and because I know it is innate in a lot of women for them to be nurturing and supportive...I want to make sure I am one of the men that lets you know...IT IS NOT WISE TO BE THIS WAY TO A MAN THAT LACKS ANY KIND OF MOTIVATION, DIRECTION, PLANNING, GOALS, ETC. The reason I say it is not wise is because, a man is supposed to be the provider for and leader of his family. How can he provide and lead anything if he lacks the aforementioned personal attributes??

It is not your job to teach/coach a man to be motivated, have goals, and a plan of execution...so don't do it. He should already have these things in the forefront of his mind every single day (and if he doesn't have it together you need to exit stage left). Your position should involve being supportive of a man that already has a focus on these things (there have been times in my day-to-day life where it would have been nice to have a companion to bounce ideas off of, turn to for uplifting and support when doubts crept into my mind, share my vision with, etc). I mean, there is something about a woman's comfort when used properly. Ladies, you may think you are comforting this guy, but what you are doing is mentally and physically draining yourself trying to teach/coach him to possess these qualities his parents should have taught him to have. Think about it this way...comfort should be returned, if he is lacking these qualities, how can he ever return the comfort to you? Better yet, how can he even teach you anything and motivate you to be all that you can be when his motivational skills are lacking?? In my opinion, that's part of what a man is supposed to do.

I know sometimes its easy to get wrapped up in having the physical presence of man around for whatever those reasons may be, but sometimes you have to evaluate the entire package. As I am writing this post, I am actually imagining myself lacking motivation, direction, plans, goals and honestly, I don't like the feeling that this imagery offers me; I literally just felt like I was in the 1st grade again. Women, to encounter someone with such lack has to be one of the most unattractive things in your eyes. Is it not? Stop holding the hands of these grown babies and instead focus on someone comparable to you.

From my heart to yours,
I_Treasure_U

Magnets and Women

Greetings to each of you lovely ladies,

I hope this post finds each of you well and in upbeat spirits. I recently greeted one of my lady friends by saying "Hello my queen, what have you been up to?" She responded, "looking for my king." I responded saying, "keep conducting yourself like a queen and you'll find your king." We've all heard the saying...there is someone for everyone. I often hear women talk about the quality of men they attract whether they make the choice to entertain them or not. Women are like magnets. A magnet is an item that possesses the property of attracting certain substances. Women have an uncanny ability to attract a vast array of "substances" (that's what the male species will be referred for purposes of this post lol). More often than not, they happen to be substances that are not wanted. Some of you may know this, (but there's nothing wrong with hearing it from a man, to some of you it might actually be refreshing to hear, and their might be readers who actually need to read this)...who you attract is a product of how you carry yourself. Let me repeat that...WHO YOU ATTRACT IS A PRODUCT OF HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF. I know what you're thinking and trust me, I understand there are some substances out there that will approach you no matter how you look and carry yourself, and its unfortunate this is a recurring occurrence; most substances just seem to ignore, don't realize, or don't care about the fact that a woman is out of their league. But despite this often expected yet unforeseeable mishap in judgment on their behalf, depending on where a woman is in her life and how she was raised, she is in search of someone that fits into her world. My belief is its as simple as this...

• A woman that conducts herself like a queen attracts a substance called a king instead of a peasant
• A woman that conducts herself like a wife attracts a substance that is worthy of being a husband
• A woman with a beautiful spirit attracts a substance with a comparable spirit that will never let hers die
• A woman with an unpleasant spirit attracts no substance at all
• A woman with a vision attracts a substance with a vision who will provide support in her achievement of that vision
• A woman that carries a demeanor motivated by material things will attract a substance who is only motivated to buy her and lacks the wherewithal to love her
  
• A woman that conducts herself like a Jezebel attracts a substance called a pimp or other misguided substances
• Lastly, a woman attracts a substance called a man. A girl attracts a substance called a boy.
  

One important key to finding what you want ladies, is to be cognizant of the energy you emit into the atmosphere. The best way to do this is to make up your mind as to what you are and stand firmly on it. Life is all about what you believe, what you believe comes from within, and what is within always radiates on the outside.

From my heart to yours,
I-Treasure-U

Is His Spirit Right

Greetings ladies,

I hope this post finds each of you well and strengthened. I apologize for being so late in writing another post. I tend to only write when I'm inspired by something; this way it comes from no place but my heart. My aim is not to write just to write, but when I do write, my goal is to deliver an inspiring and uplifting message that speaks to your heart.

The message you are about to read is very key and I believe will help many of you. The other week I went through what I found out to be a spiritual warfare. It was a time where, for that entire week my world just felt like it was out of equilibrium until I decided to just stop everything I was doing and pick up any Godly literature that I have in my house. I mean, I was like "wait! what the heck is going on with me right now?" After reading my literature, I felt my world coming back into balance; I was rescued from the unexpected chaos I had experienced the entire week. After I regained my balance, I remembered something I always hear one of my sister's say which is..."she wants a God-fearing man; a man that is spiritually grounded." It was after my week of imbalance when I knew what she meant by this.

What this experience taught me was, a man can't lead his household (which is what he was invented to do) if his spirit isn't right. A man can't be all of the great things he "says" (I put that in quotes not to say everything that comes out of a man's mouth is not genuine, but lets be real...I'm sure you've heard more BS vernacular thrown your way than you've heard vernacular characterized as indubitable; I know because I used to do it when I was a boy lol), but back to what I was saying...he can't be all of the great things he "says" he will and wants to be to you if his spirit isn't right. I'll admit I am not the most spiritual straw in the haystack. I don't go around quoting scriptures to folks, but I am a firm believer that man has to be spiritually grounded to be all that you need him to be. Ladies, pay attention to a man's spirit. Pay attention to his words, his actions, his eyes (the eyes tell it all; there is something about the way I look at a woman when I have gotten to know her, when the chemistry is there, and my interest has been heightened exponentially), and also pay attention to the little things like how often he smiles. Don't get so wrapped up in the physical because the physical can't do anything for the fragile, delicate, and emotional internal design of a woman. If you want chaos, ignore his spirit. If not (which I'm sure you don't), pay attention to it.

I_Treasure_U Signing Off.
B-e-Z

My Cardinal Rule #1

Greetings ladies,

I hope this post finds each of you well and in spectacular spirits. I humbly write to you via this post with a topic that is not necessarily 100% on track with my mission to heal the hearts of the creations that bear the seeds of men, but in a sense it is. There have been times that I have been listening to my sisters and close lady friends as they divulge encounters they have had with the opposite sex. There is one encounter (as a matter of fact it is my #1 cardinal rule) in particular that is quite a bit interesting and disturbing that many adult men seem to neglect; so interesting that a grown man somewhere in America passes away everyday and still didn't know this is something you should never do. Please don't get me wrong, as I look back on my life I've broken this rule as well, but I was but a mere lad then, and didn't know any better (like most young boys don't). I then saw/heard how unsuccessful a vast majority of the attempts were and it became my #1 cardinal rule in how to handle a woman with finesse.

What is this cardinal rule of mine that I speak of? A MAN SHOULD NEVER ASK FOR THE PANTIES. NEVER. A woman is supposed to invite a man to the bedroom. For most women (especially a woman with any sense of self and her worth), that is the ultimate turn-off to a woman. I don't completely understand women (and I never will), but I do know this...a woman has an idea of whether or not she will invite a man to the bedroom if the opportunity presented itself, within moments of first laying eyes on him, and she knows for a fact if she would, when she gets the chance to actually speak with him and something worth listening to parts his lips. But as you know, often times he hangs himself and talks himself right out of even pulling into the driveway of your home with the senseless words that pass through his lips. I've heard this request being made during the initial meeting of a woman, and I've heard it made in only a matter of time (i.e. days) after the initial meeting. Don't get me wrong, some attempts with asking this question have been successful when asked to a woman that has no sense of self and her worth, but to me that is the most idiotic assumption to think that just because success was achieved with one woman (who just so happens to be in need of a daddy because perhaps she lacked one all of her life...oh, that's another reason dads you need to be active in your daughters life, it significantly decreases the chances of her becoming the guy I speak of's prey) it will be achieved with all women. All I'm asking is...where is the respect? One thing I was taught, was being selfless and respectful will lengthen your journey through life. One of my sisters told me a guy she had known for about two weeks asked her if she would have sex with him for his birthday (and not in those exact words), but they had never even been on a date prior to this question being presented; as a matter of fact, the first and last time they saw one another was during the initial meeting. Of course, he was unsuccessful and she cussed his ass out, but when she told me about it, I grew so pissed that I literally wanted to put my fist through this character's skull. Its about respect at the end of the day. I am willing to bet, if this same guy was out with his mom and she just so happened to be one of those "hot/vibrant" creations of a woman, and some character mustered up the audacity to ask his mom that question...he will erupt like a Hawaiian volcano. With this said, I am baffled as to how one seemingly forgets the fact that he definitely has a mother, maybe a sister, maybe even a daughter.

What I am about to say, I say with complete honesty and in a humble tone. I will forgo and have forgone the temptation, and the physical sensation of intimacy brought by attraction to women I have been in the presence of because I understand this cardinal rule and the fact that respect gets you further than disrespect anytime POINT, BLANK, PERIOD. Ladies you are someone's mother, daughter, sister, auntie, etc. and respect is what you deserve.

The One that Likes You; The One that Loves You

I want to preface this by saying it takes a lot of heart to write some of the things I write because we live in such a judgmental society, but when you're sure of yourself the judgmental characters of many don't matter (mind over matter...I don't mind because they don't matter). I write because my mission is to strengthen and heal the hearts of the creations that bear the seeds of men, and encourage them not to lose hope. I often write as a result of things I witness and the experiences I listen to, both of which become genuine words from the mind and heart of an intricate brother.

Day in and day out, there is a woman somewhere that has become fed up, bitter, angry, malicious, etc. because she has given her all to a certain guy (like most women do because it is innate in their creation) that does not treasure her and her giving. Many of you have probably asked yourself, "why is it that I attract deficient quality men?" or "why can't I get a break in the relationship area of my life", wait, my favorite one is..."where are all of the good men?" (please don't get me wrong, the message you are about to read can be found as sound advice for the male species as well, because successful, ambitious men have to steer clear, and take heed to this also). Comedian Kat Williams asked the question in his stand up act "Pimp Chronicles", "have you ever thought what is it about you that attracts deficient quality brothers?" (and not in those exact words lol). Don't get me wrong, I thought his choice of words were perfect for what he was aiming to achieve for the show, but this is my attempt to expound upon those words in a non-comical, and philosophical manner.

The philosophy is rather simple. You ready? Here we go; there's two parts to this. Part #1: Enter into a relationship with the person that likes you and not the person you like. Part #2: Marry the person that loves you and not the person you love. When first reading this, you may immediately disagree, but I want you to think about what is being said. Part #1 doesn't insinuate that you enter into a relationship with a person you don't like. It merely says, get into a relationship with not only the person you like, but the person that reciprocates the same likeness for you. The same goes for part #2. The only way you will know these things is through the delay of time and the surveillance of actions.

Some women tend to often times get so wrapped up in the physical (and the physical is very important now, because you want to be able to stand the sight of the guy lol) that they neglect their emotional needs. If the only thing that comes to mind is how attractive he is and you start digging for other reasons just to dress up the relationship, or justify that its more than the physical when the thought of why you're with him arises...don't do that to yourself. The worst thing you can ever do to yourself is fool yourself; the one person you should definitely be able to trust is yourself. Furthermore, some women become starry eyed and say "Yes" at the sight of an engagement ring and thought of the subsequent activities that follow, and know the love & bond that are key ingredients for a successful marriage were never there for the last 2 years or however long it has been. It takes two to bond...have you ever tried to glue something to nothing? What happened? It fell out of your hand didn't it? Can you see the irony in that?

I say all of this with confidence, because it honestly makes sense to me; enter into a relationship with the person that likes you and not just the person you like; marry the person that loves you and not just the person you love. For instance, my best friend, married his high school sweetheart of 9 or 10 years. I was able to witness the bond they have and I know they married one another because they love each other. I was able to bear witness to the bond one of my female friends has for her husband she recently married, and I know for a fact they married one another because they love each other because Mrs. Lady right there does not play when it comes to her heart and her life lol.

All I'm saying is, keep this philosophy in mind as a guide to help you make better choices. A man dislikes encountering a woman with a chip on her shoulder. You may not be bitter, but hey its not hard to become that way if you don't take heed to the reasoning behind the relational decisions you make.

From my heart to yours,
I_Treasure_U

The Art of Courting a Woman

To preface this post, I'd like to say I speak and write from a black male angel because of course I am black, and all of my relationships have been with black women. By no means am I saying my thoughts and personal philosophies don't or won't apply to relationships of other ethnic backgrounds.

Ok, now that we've got that out the way...

As I look out into the world around me on a daily basis I witness a lot of things, I also hear a lot of things. It appears to me, at some point in time (and for the most part), the black male has neglected the idea, notion, and benefits that come from courting a woman. Somewhere, somehow, that finesse in handling the delicate, emotional genetic make-up of the female species has been lost. I have a lot of sisters and I often hear a lot of cardinal rules that men break with women. For instance, what's up with these characters asking a woman they just met yesterday if she will come to his house as a first date or vice verse?? Where is the finesse in that? What ever happened to the art of dealing with a woman that most of our grandfathers and great grandfathers had which strengthened the bond between himself and our grandmothers and great grandmothers? You know...the art that allowed them to literally stay together until death did or does them part?

Ladies, courting is all about you. When was the last time a man attempted to bond with you during a picnic in the park? And I don't mean going to get some chicken and a side of mashed potatoes from KFC. I mean literally putting some thought into it; from selecting the park, to the food selection in the basket the two of you share, and a sexy bottle of wine that tantalizes your taste buds for more with every sip you swallow.

The art of courting a woman doesn't stop in the early stages (you know...the getting to know you part). A man courting you should extend into the stages when the bond you've established with one another carries your beings to that "pillowy" warmth, and comfort you experience on the infamous 'Cloud 9'. Back in my growth and development stages of becoming the man I present to you today, I remember calling my then college love at the spur of moment, and telling her to pack some clothes for the weekend because we're going to Florida to enjoy one another and walk on the beach. While there, the emotion I felt was great, but the emotion she felt I could tell was 10 times greater. Mission accomplished, my baby knew she was special to me.

I am looking forward to the day when all men will genuinely (notice I said genuinely) want to connect with a woman emotionally, and rid themselves of the thought that being emotionally attached to a woman makes him weak. Short, tall, skinny, or fat...a man will protect what he loves, and I've learned that women love being handled with finesse.

A WOMAN SHOULD BE COURTED. Remember that.

Later on,
I_Treasure_U