Find A Champion

Greetings angels,

I sincerely hope this post finds each of you well and in great spirits. I was in church the other night and I heard something in the message that said to me...the next woman you involve yourself with seriously needs to be a champion. I started thinking about it and asked myself, "well why does she need to be a champion?" Nobody except my sisters knows that I'm the type of guy that can find the "rose bud" in just about any woman I am attracted to regardless of her background (I guess that's just one of my gifts...I'm a motivator, I thrive off of empowering others; especially the female gender), but I asked myself "why a champion?" The answer to my question was, "because I'm a champion." As I thought more about it, I came to the realization of why I need a champion.

• Reason #1 - Because I want champion offspring. Ladies, this is something you must definitely keep on the forefront of your minds. Hey some of you may despise what I am about to say, but I want to apologize in advance if I rub you the wrong way (please forgive me), but two sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having parents create sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having children, and if you're a champion and he isn't, ladies chances are you are going to be walking around the entire 9 months of your pregnancy with that 50/50 chance that your baby is going to be sorry, have low self-esteem, and no plan or vision (saying that prayer..."Lord Jesus please don't let my child be like his or her daddy). Personally, I can't have a woman that doesn't have a champion spirit or mindset pass on the energy that winning is not everything to my children while I'm teaching them how to win. That's an easy way for a woman to get early dismissal from me.
  
• Reason #2 - Champions can and do go through periods of loss and who is better to have than another champion that knows how to take his curled index finger, place it under your chin, raise your head until your eyes meet, place his forehead against yours, and say to you, "STAND STRAIGHT CHAMP! HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH AND FIGHT YOUR WAY BACK TO THE TOP!" A sorry, low self-esteem, no plan or vision having mofo CAN'T and WON'T do this for you.
  
• Reason #3 - Champions understand the importance of teamwork. Look here, it takes teamwork to build a solid family footing and impart positive values that will equate to generational success. I'm just saying shawty...I want my children's children to continue the legacy of my good name.
  
• Reason #4 - Champions don't get in your way. There's a level of "understood respect". They understand what the other champion is dealing with and as a result, they don't complain and nag (oh yes...I'm sure many of you have encountered a complaining and nagging man. If his tail had a plan and vision he wouldn't have time to complain or nag)...(you can clap now).
  
• Reason #5 - CHAMPIONS DON'T BRING YOU DOWN. I don't need to say anything more about this one. (You can clap again)
  

Ladies, if you have a sorry, low self-esteem, no plan and vision having man. You might want to reconsider, and make sure you don't put yourself in that predicament again...I'm just saying.

B-e-Z

From my heart to yours,
I_Treasure_U

Play Your Position

Greetings my beauty queens,

I pray that each of you are doing well and are holding your heads high. I want to get straight to the point with this post. I'm sure its not just me that is witnessing the "weakness" of the 21st century man. Please don't misconstrue what I am saying to mean all men today possess this "weakness" because there are indeed men that can be called "diamonds in a rough" (they just so happen to be few and far between), but in my encounters with many women, a constant theme has been guys that lack motivation, have no goals, and have no plans for their lives. I find something absolutely wrong with that, and because I know it is innate in a lot of women for them to be nurturing and supportive...I want to make sure I am one of the men that lets you know...IT IS NOT WISE TO BE THIS WAY TO A MAN THAT LACKS ANY KIND OF MOTIVATION, DIRECTION, PLANNING, GOALS, ETC. The reason I say it is not wise is because, a man is supposed to be the provider for and leader of his family. How can he provide and lead anything if he lacks the aforementioned personal attributes??

It is not your job to teach/coach a man to be motivated, have goals, and a plan of execution...so don't do it. He should already have these things in the forefront of his mind every single day (and if he doesn't have it together you need to exit stage left). Your position should involve being supportive of a man that already has a focus on these things (there have been times in my day-to-day life where it would have been nice to have a companion to bounce ideas off of, turn to for uplifting and support when doubts crept into my mind, share my vision with, etc). I mean, there is something about a woman's comfort when used properly. Ladies, you may think you are comforting this guy, but what you are doing is mentally and physically draining yourself trying to teach/coach him to possess these qualities his parents should have taught him to have. Think about it this way...comfort should be returned, if he is lacking these qualities, how can he ever return the comfort to you? Better yet, how can he even teach you anything and motivate you to be all that you can be when his motivational skills are lacking?? In my opinion, that's part of what a man is supposed to do.

I know sometimes its easy to get wrapped up in having the physical presence of man around for whatever those reasons may be, but sometimes you have to evaluate the entire package. As I am writing this post, I am actually imagining myself lacking motivation, direction, plans, goals and honestly, I don't like the feeling that this imagery offers me; I literally just felt like I was in the 1st grade again. Women, to encounter someone with such lack has to be one of the most unattractive things in your eyes. Is it not? Stop holding the hands of these grown babies and instead focus on someone comparable to you.

From my heart to yours,
I_Treasure_U